CONTENTS

Transcriber's Notes INTRODUCTION INDEX Footnotes

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I The Head and the Heart Love is independent from the will. Victims of Venus. Love and affection. Erotropism. What is the heart? A dead heart can be made to beat. The heart is a respectable organ. The antithesis head-heart. Nerve memory. 1

II The Choice of a Mate What we see in our mate. The meaning of choice. The donkey's dilemma. Chance in the discard. The dog's choice. The behavior of copepods. 10

III The Quest of the Fetish The hair fetishist. Everybody a fetishist. Most common fetishes. The breast and the bottle. Feminine fetishes. Physiological necessities. Foot and shoe fetishism. Non-physical fetishes. Symbolical fetishes. Antifetishes. Attraction or obsession? 17

IV The Family Romance and the Family Feud The Oedipus complex. The Freudian view. Jung's interpretation. Adler. Pseudo-incest. The Neurotic life plan. Imitation. The glands. Identification mania. Early conflicts. Death wishes. Our preferences. Craig's birds. 29

V Incest The incest fear. Incest in ancient times. Inbreeding. The primal horde. Repressed incestuous feelings. Blood relations. 41

VI The Physiology of Love The organism a unit. Love's stimulation. The successful lover. The unsuccessful lover. Calf love. 49

VII The Senses in Love Sight. Auditory sensations. Smell. The sense of taste. Touch. Holding hands. The kiss. The birth of the kiss. Kisses and electricity. 56

VIII Ego and Sex Neurotic complications. Self-love. Ego in sex guise. Fatherhood. War prisoners. Neurotic motherliness. When ego and sex do not conflict. 65

IX Hatred and Love A worried wife. The test of love. Sour grapes. Brothers and sisters. A negro hater. Reformers. The syphilophobiac. Deluded martyrs. 73

X Plural Love and Infidelity Polyandry. Infidelity. When love dies. Iwan Bloch's and Hirth's theories. Bored wives. Getting even. Varietists and Don Juans. The ultra-feminine. Messalina. 83

XI Is Free Love Possible? Man, the dissatisfied. The next step. Blissful blindness. What of the child? Disharmony between the parents. The institution child. Free love plus birth control. 95

XII Prostitution Economic factors. Lombrosos's theory. Sensuality. Father fixation. Prostitution a neurosis. The pimp. Prevention. Prostitution has no redeeming grace. 104

XIII Virginity What men experienced in love want? Ethical prostitution. The fear of woman. The will-to-be-the-first. Telegony. Goldschmidt's explanations. 112

XIV Modesty, Normal and Abnormal In Turkey. On the modern stage. Normal modesty. Suggestive draperies. Excessive modesty. Immodest modesty. Fear of love. The masculine protest. Lack of modesty. 122

XV Jealousy Forel's rules for husbands. Very few men and women admit their jealousy. Jealousy and impotence. Childish behavior. The ego rampant. Sexless jealousy. Husbands and lovers. Cruelty. Making people jealous. 133

XVI Insane Jealousy Delusional jealousy. Homosexualism and jealousy. A jealous wife. A case of projection. Masked sadism. 147

XVII Homosexualism. Its Genesis Male lovers in Greece. Women were harem slaves. The tide turns. Theories. The third sex. Transvestites. Are transvestites homosexual? Metatropism. Steinach's experiments. Perverse birds. Freud denies the third sex. Active and passive types. The homosexual neurosis. A safety device. Above and below. A way out. The escape from biological duties. 155

XVIII Homosexualism a Neurotic Symptom A denial of life. Homosexualism is negative love. The love letters of famous homosexuals. Deeds of violence. A homosexual tragedy. Women more homosexual than men. Boastful homosexuals. The Nietzsche-Wagner feud. Shall perverse love be recognized? Man's emancipation from woman. Homosexualism and war. Is homosexualism necessary? 174

XIX Cruelty and Love—Sadism Algolagnists. The Marquis de Sade's biography. What Bonaparte thought of him. Glandular drunkenness. Atavism. Primitive religions. Primitive races and sex violence. Animal love fights. The sadistic mob. Is the male more cruel? 188

XX Love that Craves Suffering—Masochism Sacher Masoch's biography. Love of the whip. The masochist is like a tired horse. Shoe fetishism. Craving for humiliation. Masochistic fancies. Are women masochistic? Women who enjoy a beating. A Freudian suggestion. 200

XXI What Love Owes to Sadists and Masochists Sadistic and masochistic lovers and their fascination. The vamp. Those who are too normal to be interesting or romantic. 212

XXII Love Among the Artists Dissatisfaction. The male artist. The female artist. The woman who accomplishes things. Flattery. 216

XXIII The Personality Behind the Fetishes. Glands The parent-child relationship. Modern endocrinologists ignorant of psychology. Reciprocal influence of glands and behavior. The pituitary gland. The thyroid. The adrenals. The gonads. 223

XXIV Glandular Personalities The dark skinned type. The tall type. The lean type. The obese type. The slender type. Environment. Comfort and behavior. What teeth indicate. Matrimonial engineers. 233

XXV Love and Mother Love Sex cravings and motherhood cravings. Pregnancy means health. Fear of pregnancy. When mother love is lacking. Frigid wives. Mother and father love. Mothers adore their sons. Fathers partial to daughters. The flapper and her mother. 241

XXVI Should Winter Mate with Spring? Two disinterested brides. The case of Wagner. A parent fixation. Physical incompatibility. The plight of two neurotics. What will people say? Having her fixation-fling. Physical results. The fate of the younger mate. King David. 251

XXVII Negative Love A "clean" life. Utterances and conduct. Oracles and prophecies. Can we save our vital force. Sublimation. The sexless. Ideal love. Protective measures. Lovers of the absolute. A troublesome patient. Higher aspirations. 263

XXVIII The New Woman and Love George Bernard Shaw's view. The rebellion against nature. Woman in commercial life. Was it a sacrifice? The pursuit. The passing of respectable prostitution. The abettor of ethical sins. Health versus sickness. The passing of the flirt and of the doll. Modesty, old and new. The unadapted woman. The proud husband. 275

XXIX Birth Control What we expect of the modern woman. The only solution. The human milch cow. The nightmare of abortion. The plight of the neurotic woman. The child of the neurotic woman. Birth control and indulgence. A great love is a holy thing. The passing of the double standard. 291

XXX The Passing of the Husband Worship Is man's vitality declining? Undue pessimism. The wise husband. Is the male indispensable? Loeb's experiments. Twins to order. The mother is the race. Matriarchal communities. Modern woman is conceited. The terrors of the climacteric. Masculine man is in no danger of passing away. 303

XXXI Perfect Matrimonial Adjustments Marriage a compromise. Attractiveness an asset. Forty and hideous. Athletic movie idols. The foe of married happiness. Friendship may survive love. Separate vacations for the married. The play function of love. Psychoanalysis to the rescue. Wounded egotism. Democracy in the home. 315